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“A detailed, eye-opening account of the real sexual underground in America . . . a thorough and serious study.”—Playboy
From Different Loving
In order to understand unusual sexualities such as dominance and submission, one first has to consider the question ‘What is normal?‘ If the unique function of sex is reproductive—and the only reason men and women should engage in sex is for the purpose of creating a new life—then only heterosexual intercourse is normal. By this standard, many common acts, even contraception, must be considered aberrant. Reproductive relevance was the Victorian standard of normalcy, and even today many of the laws in the United States still abide by that model. But people have always pursued sex for both reproduction and for pleasure and well-being.
We start from the premise that sex for pleasure is a normal human drive and is acceptable when it brings pleasure to both partners. From this perspective, DS is simply a ‘different‘ kind of loving.
We hope to add to the greater body of knowledge about what people really do behind closed doors with the people they most love and trust. Perhaps Different Loving will help open the door for further research into the mystery, beauty, and complexity of human life and its diverse expressions.
Praise for Different Loving
“The definitive guide to the sexual styles of those who walk on the wild side.”—Kirkus Reviews
“As a window on largely unexplored territory, Different Loving is a breakthrough in the dialogue on human sexuality, and a significant work of popular sociology.”—South Bend Tribune
“A comprehensive primer on loving with leather and romance by riding crop.”—Michael Musto, New York Daily News
Ebook Different Loving The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission William Brame Gloria Brame Jon Jacobs 9780679769569 Books
"Even thought the book is a bit outdated it does provide an OK overview on the various "kinks" of BDSM that involve power exchange. Each chapter covers a different activity and talks about it from both the dominant's and submissive's perspective. It covers things like spanking, infantilism, water-sports, 24/7 lifestyle, etc. My one big complaint is it totally ignores the LGBT community when discussing it's topic, a point the author makes right at the beginning of the book. Hus point was there aren't as many LGBT people involved as straight people and they weren't willing to talk to him. That might have been true when the book was written years ago but knowing my community as I do I'd have to say thats no longer a valid point. Otherwise its a good overall book and an interesting read. Plus you can skip the chapters you're not interested in without losing anything."
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Different Loving The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission William Brame Gloria Brame Jon Jacobs 9780679769569 Books Reviews :
Different Loving The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission William Brame Gloria Brame Jon Jacobs 9780679769569 Books Reviews
- Even thought the book is a bit outdated it does provide an OK overview on the various "kinks" of BDSM that involve power exchange. Each chapter covers a different activity and talks about it from both the dominant's and submissive's perspective. It covers things like spanking, infantilism, water-sports, 24/7 lifestyle, etc. My one big complaint is it totally ignores the LGBT community when discussing it's topic, a point the author makes right at the beginning of the book. Hus point was there aren't as many LGBT people involved as straight people and they weren't willing to talk to him. That might have been true when the book was written years ago but knowing my community as I do I'd have to say thats no longer a valid point. Otherwise its a good overall book and an interesting read. Plus you can skip the chapters you're not interested in without losing anything.
- Though apt to attract curiosity seekers who enjoy alternative lifestyles in a purely voyeuristic sense I personally own multiple copies of this book.
DIFFERENT LOVING does something incredibly valuable in compliling about two-hundred testimonials from BDSM enthusiasts that cover the gamut of interests and involvement. The common thread through these diverse testimonials is the desire on the part of the interviewee to take themselves and what they do seriously, an honor conferred upon them by virtue of the cooperation of the authors and the publishers to treat BDSM behavior as better than a novelty or a joke.
I have not read this book from cover nor do I confess any inclination to but on multiple occasions I have taken this book from the shelf and opened to a page where some degree of personal reassurance has been found.
Better than any movie, pornographic or otherwise, DIFFERENT LOVING is a dignified way to share interest in the subject, to start a conversation or simply to display an willingness to be accepting of unusual practices.
I take the people who contributed to this book at their word regarding the private revelations that they make. For all I know they may be as fabricated as the fantasy letters published in Penthouse but thusfar I have not found any harm in assigning credibility to what I have read.
(Five out of five stars) - BDSM is a unique world that, while seemingly underground, is actually quite normal on the whole -- though also wholly misunderstood.
It is everything we do as children, but as adults playing cops and robbers, cowboys and Indians, princess and slave, we form these fantasies as children when it's safe to play, and as we grow old we're told that "normal" is right and anything other than missionary and "normal" is wrong and deviant.
Unfortunately there are way too many fluff and fantasy books out there (50 Shades of Gray for example, which I do not recommend) that teach people about the fantasy aspects of enjoying the Lifestyle but not the reality and the deep trust and understanding required for a successful BDSM experience. Which, unfortunately, means that when they do play ... they don't get the whole experience. And often they don't try again, or don't explore as much as they would have knowing more about the reality and how to have a successful experience. Which can really only be understood by talking to others who are experienced, who do live the Life, who have more than just novel experience in this realm.
There are a lot of "good" books on BDSM and the Lifestyle out there, from the beginner to the advanced -- including several fiction pieces (Belinda,Story of O,The Marketplace -- the entire series, highly recommended, Justine) but as a formally trained submissive and Domme I recommend Different Loving to everyone; whether they have a passing interest or are deep in the Lifestyle.
Different Loving shows you, from personal experience of those interviewed, what BDSM is really about trust and understanding. BDSM is a simple power exchange, that's it. And this book provides the most real look at what that power exchange is like. Sure you can "play" BDSM for a night with some furry handcuffs, but for the real experience, for the experience where you go out for dinner with your partner and can drop them into a subtle submissive mode simply by touching the palm of their hand ... that's what Different Loving does.
I've bought over a dozen copies of this book and given all but one away, and I'll continue to do so. If there is a BDSM "bible" this is it. You won't like everything you read, but it will help you understand yourself better and your partner much better. And that's what BDSM is all about.
